When something good happens, people tend to think: “I worked so hard, I’m so talented, I did a great job!” But when things go wrong, people often start taking a mental account of any external factors that could be to blame. Can you think of a time when you were quick to take credit for … Read more
Do you want to know if you have a toxic personality? Nobody wants to be labeled as toxic, but different circumstances in our lives leave their mark on our personalities. Some of these circumstances influence us to have toxic tendencies. But first, what is a toxic person? Obviously, we’re not talking about someone who has … Read more
They say that kids are a blessing. And they truly are. Having four of my own over a five year period (no twins, ps)… I can attest to this. They are ages 5, 7, 9 and 11… and they are my world. I love watching their personalities develop. I love hearing them laugh. I love … Read more
Tired of always trying to fit in—of constantly trying to be like everyone else in order to be accepted? Well, we’ve got news for you—you’re not meant to fit in. You’re not even required to think and act like everybody else. You are special, and you’ve got unique contributions to share with the world. Today, … Read more
Nobody deserves to be treated poorly in a relationship. However, mistreatment in a relationship isn’t always obvious at first. It usually comes as a shock to the one on the receiving end of the mistreatment when they realize that the one they love is manipulating or taking advantage of them—or, worse, abusing them. Before we … Read more
Let’s say you’re walking down the sidewalk near a busy street and you see someone who is texting and not paying attention to where they’re going. There is some space between the two of you, but certainly not so much that you wouldn’t be able to stop them from walking into traffic. As you see … Read more
Feel like you’re never good enough? You may have experienced being in a toxic relationship, where a narcissistic partner tried to diminish your sense of self-worth. Or maybe you have had to work hard for your family’s approval of your life decisions. Perhaps it’s your own thoughts that say you’re a phony, despite your achievements. … Read more
It starts as children when we try to please and impress our parents. That need to please follows us to school as we try to impress our teachers and coaches–and ultimately to our adult lives as we go out of our way to please our bosses. And this isn’t only true for people who tend … Read more
If you’re like me, you may find that when you’re trying to think of a good idea, nothing comes to mind. But, that moment right before you fall asleep or when you’re out for a run, a brilliant idea will hit you. But how do you get those ideas to come at more convenient times? … Read more
“How to get motivated” is something that I do not spend a lot of time talking about here on Develop Good Habits. It is not that I think motivation doesn’t play an important role in successful habit change, but I that feel systems, rituals, and routines play a more essential part than motivation. But motivation … Read more